How supporting yourself is certainly not selfish…

I found a message on my pillow when I came to bed recently 💗

“I 💗 U! I don’t know what I’d do without you coaching me! It helped a lot. Love always, Chloe x x x x x.”

My daughter Chloe had left it for me after I’d supported her before bed, said goodnight and gone downstairs.

I used to be someone constantly attempting perfectionist positivity on the outside whilst hiding incredible fragility beneath.

However, I can genuinely say that person is no longer me.

Something amazing happens when you train your brain to provide emotional support and empowerment. Your own experience is transformed but also...

✨This growth naturally ripples out to everyone around you✨

🪄You become someone who feels safe when others are heightened.
🪄You become someone who listens differently. Responds very intentionally.
🪄You become someone who relates to emotional challenge and can offer both reassurance and possibility.
🪄You become someone providing a consistent source of support without judgment.

All because you’re practicing it internally, every day.

Emotional skills don't provide you with a life free from all emotional challenge. No, I’m afraid there’s no human brain offering that. Anyway, when would resilience, courage and pride get any opportunity then?!

Instead, emotional skills allow you to:

🧠 Recognise your emotions with precision and perspective
💬 Best navigate the influence and impact of emotional challenge
✨ Sustainably generate empowering emotions that transform your experience

This changes you. At this same time, this changes you at work, you in your relationships, you in your everyday life.

When you feel emotionally supported yourself, this simply radiates out as how your brain now navigates the world around you.

It’s one of the most meaningful and incredible side effects of even a short period of emotional skills coaching.

💡Start with you.

The ripple effect will take care of itself.