The empowering truth: no one can support you emotionally like you can
We can all relate to times when we’re feeling stressed, pressured or worried and we try to feel better by leaning on someone else.
We often talk challenges through to feel heard, validated and understood.
I’ve always been very lucky to have wonderful emotional support from certain people in my life. Several of you are reading this and I’m so grateful for you being you.
But even the most supportive people can never support you emotionally like YOU can.
There is no person alive apart from you who can target the interior source of your emotions.
A very empowering realisation.
It’s logical we often seek emotional support from others…
When we do seek support from others, we do sometimes get that initial spark of welcome emotion when someone is compassionate or validates our experience.
If others say the “right thing”, sometimes that gives our brain the chance to generate relief or reassurance.
But…it’s unsustainable, short-term relief.
No matter how wonderful someone is, they cannot give you a feeling. Every emotion you ever feel is generated by your brain, on the inside.
It’s only when you learn skills to best influence the way your brain constructs emotions, amazing emotional support becomes reliably, sustainably available to you.
When you master emotional empowerment skills, you become your own best friend.
This week’s self‑support step…
Let’s consider a next step; a skill that focuses on internally influencing your emotions. A skill once developed that no one can take away.
When you feel your next emotional challenge, find a moment to write out onto paper exactly what you’d say to whoever usually provides that special support.
Write in an unfiltered way, letting your thoughts flow.
Once you’ve finished, read it back a few times aloud. It’s repeatedly reading your thoughts that accelerates a reduction in the intensity you’re feeling.
You’ll start to feel a slight release. You’ve given your brain the chance to externalise it’s thought processes and this opportunity for perspective can bring reassuring calm.
Then, having read your thoughts through several times, pause and ask yourself:
“If I were being compassionate and supportive towards myself, what’s one gentle thought I might consider?”
It might not sound inspirational, but the brain naturally loves to answer questions.
When repeated, small steps like this are what build sustained brain change.
Each time you take this step, you strengthen your ability to understand, reflect and guide yourself emotionally.
Why this matters
Your brain is waiting to emotionally perform for you in a way that fuels your health, energy and potential.
A completely different life.
That’s why I created the Emotional Rebuild Framework™, a short series of online coaching sessions, rooted in neuroscience, that enable you to achieve the emotional change you seek. For good.
If you can find an hour a week to prioritise you, it’s my responsibility to do the rest.
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You and your feelings really matter.