Who do you want to become?
This week, I am lucky to be turning 40.
Half way to 80!
WOW!
I’ve been reflecting on my life experience so far and one question, a question I asked myself several years ago, has had more impact on me than any other.
I had spent years and years being someone who was relentlessly navigating daily insecurity, anxiety and low worth. But, one day I asked my brain a curious, empowering question…
“Who do I want to become?”
When I asked myself that question, I realised several things:
I wanted to become someone who finally liked themselves.
I wanted to become someone who felt deeply secure about who they were.
I wanted to become someone who felt confident and capable.
Not just as nice ideas. I wanted this to be my daily reality, reliably and sustainably.
At that point, I had no idea how I’d make it happen but I knew that’s who I wanted to become!
Emotional disempowerment is our default…
People might assume that I became an Emotional Empowerment Coach because I was naturally confident and secure.
Absolutely not.
Brain’s don’t naturally deliver an empowering emotional experience. In fact, they’re naturally biased towards producing the opposite.
It took a deep dive into neuroscience and plenty of practical experimentation to become who I wanted to be.
BUT…I finally learnt out how to become that person.
The person who felt truly secure, reassured and confident.
Not because life magically got easier but because I learned how to build those emotions from the inside out.
I stopped outsourcing my emotional experience to external events. I stopped relying on reassurance from other people.
I became who I wanted to be by training my brain to deliver the emotional change I sought.
I had become who I wanted to be through emotional skills.
These are the same skills I now help others master, only with far more efficiency than when I was figuring it all out from scratch!
Every single one of us is seeking a supportive, comforting and empowering emotional experience. Professionally and personally.
In reality though, we are often simply someone waiting. Waiting for the emotional experience we seek whilst it’s remains out of reach…
“I’ll feel calm and reassured when…”
“I’ll feel confident when…”
But these feelings never come reliably. They can’t because they don’t come from your circumstances. They will only ever come from your brain.
However, once you understand that, you CAN choose who you want to become, in a way that is finally accessible.
Take the relay baton from me and answer my same question…
You have full emotional opportunity, so…
Who do you want to become?
This is one of the most powerful things about being human: you can imagine a future version of yourself, allowing yourself to then take action towards that goal.
This is how sustained emotional change happens. Not from the outside in but from the inside out.
Our emotional norms aren’t fixed.
The brain is beautifully programmable.
Imagining possibility is where it all starts…
The moment you imagine that version of yourself, the one you want to become, you create a possibility that didn’t exist before.
And once it exists, your brain can begin to build it.
Here’s to reassurance. Here’s to confidence. Here’s to all the empowering emotions you deserve.
Here’s to you becoming that person on purpose.
Someone who is fuelled by emotions that make life healthy, energising and enjoyable.
If you’d love a quicker emotional transformation…
This is exactly what we explore in my free 30‑minute Discovery Call.
No judgement or expectation. It’s just a safe, exciting opportunity to explore the emotional experience you seek and the steps your brain needs to create it.
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